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Living with long term depression – The long and winding road

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I think I have mentioned before that I suffer from depression. I was diagnosed with recurring suicidal depression in my second year at university.

At times my depression has been horrendous but at other times I am completely happy and content with my life. I have to admit, that during the past few weeks I have been struggling. This is all my fault!

When you’ve suffered from depression for a long time you have to be very conscious of your actions in life (I am sure this is the same for any illness). There are questions that I need to ask myself on a regular basis; these are questions about my physical and my emotional state.

  • Am I getting enough sleep?
  • Am I exercising regularly?
  • Am I eating healthily?
  • Am I getting enough fresh air?
  • Am I looking to others to give me self-esteem?
  • Am I worried that I’m missing out on things?
  • Am I getting less tolerant of others?
  • Am I trying to be perfect at everything?
  • Am I comparing myself to other people?

In the past, the answers to these questions have meant that I was extremely ill. At the moment, they mean that I need to look after myself better and that I am feeling fragile.

At the grand old age of 36 (gasp!!!) I have been living on the long and winding road of a life with depression for a good number of years. I know the signs that I’m getting low and I know what I can do to help myself. But helping myself is all about will-power.

It is about growing my self-esteem and trying to feel happy in my own skin. It is about not comparing myself and my life to other people. It is about allowing myself to be human and to make mistakes.

It is about realising that the world won’t end if I go to bed. I don’t need to stay up past 2.00 a.m. buying clothes for Little Miss H on the Mothercare website (yes, I’m ashamed to say that I have done that in the past). It is about making myself take Little Miss H for a walk even though I would prefer to curl up on the sofa with her and take a nap. It is about exercising when it is the last thing that I feel like doing. It is about eating a banana rather than the largest chocolate bar that Cadbury make. It is about putting on a dress and some make-up. Even if I would love to slob around in my 17-year-old hoodie and a pair of leggings.

So tomorrow I need to start looking after myself. I need to stop being a silly Mrs H. Thankfully I’ve done it before and I know that I can do it again. Wish me luck!

Hugs

Mrs H

xxxx

PS. I originally wrote this post back in November 2013. It was the first time I had truly written about my depression in my blog. It is a post that is very important to me and that I am proud of. For that reason, I decided to re-write it and re-publish it. I hope that my story and experience can help others.

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    Amelia
    April 20, 2017 at 12:29 pm

    Such a great post. I have PTSD and depression is a big part of that. I’m only just getting the hang of how to help myself through rough patches and keep looking after myself when things seem fine, knowing that a low could be just around the corner.

    Your list of questions is a really good idea, they’re good signals that something’s wrong before you’re quite aware of it yourself.

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    Richard Mackay
    March 11, 2017 at 6:33 pm

    Great post and resonates strongly with me.
    I blog on this topic a lot and what I have realised is that I need to manage myself when well, exactly like you posted. When in the grip of depression episode, I’ve got to ride it out. If I feel The Slide, I up my management game, try to find the balance.
    Thanks for posting your experience on this. Be kind to yourself.

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    adam
    January 10, 2017 at 10:10 am

    Great post. Glad I found your blog. I’m enjoying reading through your posts (instead of doing some work haha). I’m 38 and have suffered from depression since early teens (lots of reasons). It is hard to look after yourself when you’ve got a family to care for. You tell yourself you have to carry on and put them first until you can’t. Sometimes it’s realising that taking time out and caring for yourself IS what’s best for your kids. It got so bad in 2016 that for the first time we realised I had to leave work. I wasn’t being true to myself, trucking on in a career that was the antithesis of everything I believe in…and that’s especially hard when you’re dealing with depression.

    Now i’m dog walking and not making any money but the exercise is doing me tons of good. Money is really tight but I think we’re heading to a happier place.

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      Mrs H
      January 10, 2017 at 7:50 pm

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment. And you should be so proud of yourself. Making yourself a priority is essential when you have long term mental health issues and it is crucial when you have a family depending on you. I am my own worst enemy. I rarely look after myself. I eat rubbish, exercise rarely and go to bed far too late. As a result there is always a very thin margin between being in a good place with my depression and being in a bad place. Thanks again for commenting. If you ever want to stop by for a chat then please feel free. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Helen (JMAndMPLL)
    October 26, 2015 at 1:52 pm

    What an honest and open post!! I suffer from Postnatal depression and have done for nearly a year, I’ve been on antidepressants since January! I’m going through a bit of a rough patch at the minute but I know I’ll make it soon, your post gives me hope and reminds me that I always need to take the time to look after myself!! That it’s not selfish but necessary!! I get frustrated with myself sometimes and so tired of that voice that tells me to leave things until later or tomorrow!! Thank you and I hope you’re in a good place at the minute!! Xxxx
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      Mrs H
      October 27, 2015 at 9:25 pm

      Helen, thank you so much for your comment. I am really pleased if this post helped you. Looking after yourself is very important but it is hugely difficult. I have that little voice in my head too. “I’ll do it tomorrow”. Invariably, I know that I won’t do it tomorrow and then I feel guilt too. I am glad that you have got help. I think that is part of the battle. Once you’ve accepted that you are ill and that it isn’t normal to feel depressed then you are on your journey to feeling better. I really hope that you get through your rough patch soon. Sending love and hugs. Mrs H xxxx

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    Alan Herbert
    October 25, 2015 at 10:09 pm

    That is spooky.

    I was only thinking yesterday about writing a post on triggers for long term depression sufferers.

    I’ve been noticing the signs of late in myself that I know means a dip is on the horizon.

    A brilliant post. Hope things are going well for you at the moment.
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      Mrs H
      November 1, 2015 at 4:28 pm

      Thanks for your comment. Great minds think a like. It is amazing how we get to a stage with our depression where you know your triggers and you can see yourself heading towards a dip. Yet, it is still so hard to find the motivation to do anything about it. Especially, at this time in year. I always find it so much easier to look after myself when the sun shines. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    laura dove
    October 15, 2015 at 4:14 pm

    Lucy! I can’t believe how similar our lives are. I have lived with depression my entire adult life, being diagnosed in my second year at university and spending my early twenties in a very dark place. I was hospitalised at various points in my life, spiralled into anorexia, and now live with panic and anxiety disorder on top. It’s a hard slog to get through some days but the happy days now come out on top. Life is hard, being a mummy is hard, but battling depression has been one of my hardest battles yet. It’s refreshing to hear someone being honest and open about mental illness, that is half of the battle won. Much love. xxx
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    Laura
    August 29, 2015 at 6:34 am

    I’ve just discovered your blog and I’m really pleased I did, it seems it will be right up my street since I’m also a mum who struggles with depression and anxiety.

    I blog about my experiences with PND and subsequent periods of anxiety and I would love for you to check it out if you have time. I plan to link to Sunday Stars too now I’ve discovered it.

    Congrats on your blog and well done for sharing your experiences regarding depression and motherhood.

    L x

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    Amanda
    May 20, 2015 at 9:57 am

    I can identify so much with what you say. It’s so important to ask ourselves these questions every once in a while and take action when necessary.
    It’s too easy to slip into bad habits when living with any mental health condition, this is such a great reminder to take a step back and evaluate where I am with my own depression, thank you.
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      Mrs H
      August 11, 2015 at 9:01 pm

      Oh Amanda, thank you for your lovely comment. I am so sorry that I have not replied sooner. I hope this post enabled you to review your own depression and take the steps needed to help. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Alice
    May 17, 2015 at 8:33 am

    Thanks for this insightful post. I’m sure it will help a lot more people than just those who read it – giving us all a greater understanding of how we can support loved ones who suffer from depression
    #sundaysharefest
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      Mrs H
      August 11, 2015 at 9:02 pm

      Hi Alice. Thank you for your lovely comment. I am sorry that I have not replied sooner. I really hope that by talking openly about my mental health issues I am able to help people understand depression a little more. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Amanda
    May 17, 2015 at 8:08 am

    I’m popping over from #Sundaysharefest and am glad Ally directed me this way! What a beautifully honest account of what it is like to live with depression and how you have discovered a way of living with it that works for you. Of course, even with the best will in the world, we all forget to look after ourselves from time to time, but recognising when you have done that and knowing how to get back on track is so amazing. Good luck xx
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      Mrs H
      August 11, 2015 at 9:04 pm

      Oh Amanda, thank you for your lovely comment. I am sorry that I have not replied sooner. It is so important for me to look after myself. But I often get wrapped up in life and I lose track of where I am going. This post is a reminder of what I need to do to help myself. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Jenni Chiu @Mommynanibooboo
    March 19, 2015 at 2:16 pm

    I know this all too well. Thank you for being brave enough to write about it.
    People will still bring up posts I’ve written about depression and anxiety years after they’ve been published. Your words will help more people than you know.
    Take care of yourself the best you can right now. Xoxo
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      Mrs H
      March 21, 2015 at 10:12 pm

      Thank you for your kind words. In all honesty, I don’t feel brave writing about my depression. It is such a part of my life now and it seems odd not to talk about it. Plus, the more people who share their experiences of mental health problems then the less people will feel isolated and ashamed. We need to end the taboo of talking about our mental health. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Ally Mother Under Measure
    February 18, 2015 at 8:07 pm

    Great post. I ask myself those same questions, I forget the basics to keep myself going and focus too much on what others can see; I’ll pick polishing over eating, hoovering over sleeping, etc. I’m glad you’ve learnt the signs, I think I’m getting to that stage and can tell when I’m hitting a low. Thank you for speaking so openly about it and helping people like myself feel less isolated. Ally x

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      Mrs H
      February 20, 2015 at 11:38 am

      Thank you so much for your wonderful comment. It is really hard to do what you know will make feel better. I too prioritise other things over looking after myself. So silly! But as I’m getting older I am learning to put myself first. You should do the same honey. You are amazing and need to stay that way. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Jennifer Gordon
    January 31, 2015 at 10:23 pm

    I am a first time visitor to your blog. This post is amazing and brave! I am a nurse with many years in the mental health field and I know that I suffer from depression myself. I am new to blogging and have wanted to write on this topic. I haven’t been able to face my fears and talk about it to the world. There are many people in my life that would never expect that I suffer from it. I have been medicated for the past year and it has helped tremendously but I still have really bad days. Thank you for this little encouragement. Maybe I can start writing about. May be awhile before I can post it but just writing the words will be a huge step! Thank you!
    ~Jennifer

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      Mrs H
      February 5, 2015 at 10:11 pm

      Hi Jennifer. Thank you so much for commenting. Your comment means so much to me. I write about my depression because it has been part of my life for so long that to omit it from my blog isn’t really possible. But it is hard to write about. I always feel sick before I press “publish” on this type of post. Ultimately though, I know that writing these posts is for the best when I receive lovely comments like yours. Take care of yourself. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    HonestMum
    January 31, 2015 at 9:05 am

    You are so, so brave and strong for writing this and I think the checklist to ensure you’re doing your best to help yourself is crucial and is something we should all do. Lots of love to you. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts x
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      Mrs H
      February 5, 2015 at 10:13 pm

      Thanks for your lovely comment. I don’t feel brave writing this post. It is just part of my everyday life. The checklist is so important to me as it keeps me happy and healthy. But you are right, it should be used by everyone to help them be the best version of themselves that they can. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    JoyandPops
    January 29, 2015 at 3:36 pm

    This is a lovely and brave post – it can be so hard to admit when things aren’t quite right. I can really empathise with alot of what you have said, I’ve certainly had my own problems. Best of luck for the future.
    Xx
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      Mrs H
      February 5, 2015 at 10:14 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I am so glad that you could relate to some of the things I said in this post but I am very sorry to hear that you’ve had your own problems. I hope this post highlights that you can carry on and life does go on and can get better. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Life with Six Kids
    January 29, 2015 at 12:58 pm

    Having also had depression, thank you for such an honest post. It is hard to talk about but important to share x
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      Mrs H
      February 5, 2015 at 10:17 pm

      Thank you for your kind comment. Depression is hard to write about but I really feel that I need to step out of my comfort zone and write about it. I want to give other people hope that long-term depression will allow you to have a normal life. But you have to look after yourself and take practical steps to ensure that you are happy and healthy. Take care and be kind to yourself. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Megan - Truly Madly Kids
    January 29, 2015 at 11:31 am

    Firstly, well done for writing this. It is an illness, and having the strength to help yourself get better is brilliant way forward.

    I suffer from generalised anxiety disorder, and used the Mind Gym to help me be more mindful and not get myself in scenarios where I can’t even get out of bed.

    Wishing you well and lots of love and hugs (and you write a brilliant blog!) #BRILLIANTBLOGPOSTS
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      Mrs H
      February 5, 2015 at 10:20 pm

      Thank you for your kind words about my blog. I’ve gone all shy now. I am sorry to hear that you suffer from generalised anxiety disorder but it does sound like you have a very positive and practical attitude to keeping yourself happy and healthy. I would love to learn more about mindfulness as I think it would be a huge help. Maybe I will have a look at the Mind Gym myself. Thanks for the recommendation. And huge love and hugs back at ya. Mrs H xxxx

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    martyn
    January 27, 2015 at 9:44 am

    So pleased you wrote this post! And we’ll done for doing it.

    All the questions you raise are exactly what I do. It’s a good list.

    To have it for so long makes our lives a rollercoaster of highs and lows and that can be draining in itself.

    Not everyone will understand but doing post like this will help so many!!
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      Mrs H
      February 5, 2015 at 10:23 pm

      Hi Martyn. Thank you so much for your great comment. You are right, having depression for so long can make life an exhausting rollercoaster. It is amazing how an unseen illness can affect so many aspects of our lives. I hope that my posts will help more people understand about mental health issues. I also want to inspire anyone who is in a bad place that there is hope. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Leigh - Headspace Perspective
    January 25, 2015 at 7:19 pm

    Oh, beautiful Mrs H. You are so generous and giving, and I am so glad you are my friend. This is a beautifully honest post. I know it can be easier said than done, but please do keep an eye on that list so you can keep that evil black dog at bay xxx
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      Mrs H
      January 25, 2015 at 9:56 pm

      Ahhh Leigh, thank you for your lovely comment. I am so glad I am your friend too. You are always such a wonderful support. I have been really trying to take pro-active steps to putting the evil black dog at bay recently. It is helping. But as you say it can be easier said than done. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Hannah
    January 20, 2015 at 4:15 pm

    Hey Mrs H, I think this is a really brave and inspiring post to write. I too know about the battles you can have with depression as I have suffered with mine since I was 15 – I now blog about it, which has really helped me open up to people and get back on the road to recovery. If you need a day in bed that’s okay, and if you need to take some time out that’s fine too – just never give up. Keep going, keep smiling and keep being that wonderful person that your blog tells me that you are! 🙂

    Hannah xxx

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    Steph
    January 19, 2015 at 8:21 pm

    Suffering myself from depression I know exactly where you are coming from when you ask yourself those questions, though, I have never been diagnosed with anything like the suicidal depression you have so very bravely written about. I cannot even start to imagine how awful this must have been for you, and I can imagine something as horrendous as that can easily rear it’s ugly head every so often, when the world just seems to get on top of you. In moments like that, though no matter what anyone really says as your mind still wanders down that dark path, please, please, please just sit down and take a moment to read these amazing comments above. You truly are one if the most beautiful people I am lucky enough to know and call a friend. Outside and in. Xxxxx

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      Mrs H
      January 25, 2015 at 11:41 pm

      Steph, you are wonderful. Your comment really touched me. It made me quite emotional. I am very lucky to have such wonderful blogging friends. Knowing that I suffer from depression is scary. I never want to go to the terrible place I visited in my 20s. I never want Little Miss H to see her mum like that. I know my life is very different now but I also know how easy it is for thoughts and emotions to spiral out of control. It is right that I take positive steps to make myself feel better. And writing posts like this helps. For years my depression controlled me but now I control my depression. It makes a profound difference to my life. Hugs Mrs H xxxx PS I love you.

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    Potty Mouthed Mummy
    January 19, 2015 at 4:13 pm

    You should be very proud lovely. Honesty in blog posts, while often difficult to write, can be very cathartic. And I think more than that, it helps you see to the heart of the person who’s blog you love. Sharing your story will help many others I am sure and I hope you’re still making time for yourself. Much love xx

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      Mrs H
      January 25, 2015 at 11:37 pm

      Thank you for your absolutely gorgeous comment. It made me a little tearful (in a good way). I do find it helps to write this type of post. I don’t feel ashamed of my depression and I want to be able to help other people (and maybe especially other women) who share the same feelings. Having depression can be terribly isolating. It is so important to know that you are not alone. Thanks also for sharing this post on your blog. You are wonderful. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    mummyofboygirltwins
    January 18, 2015 at 9:34 pm

    You are brave and so very special. I always admire you and your blog. This post (and the ones like it) must help so many people. Keep strong lady and try to get help as you do when you need it. You know where I am if you need me. Love, Jess xx

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      Mrs H
      January 25, 2015 at 11:34 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment gorgeous. I hope that these more personal posts do help others. I would hate for anyone to think that I am being self-indulgent. Thanks for being a great friend and a wonderful support. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    lifewithsixkids
    January 18, 2015 at 9:03 am

    A brave post and one that I can relate to in many ways. Recognising the dark clouds on the horizon is so important so that you can help yourself before they come in. Hoping that things are clearing x
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      Mrs H
      January 18, 2015 at 9:37 am

      Thank you for your lovely comment. This post seems to have resonated with a lot of people. I am lucky to know myself well enough that I know the signs. Take care of yourself. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Sarah Christie
    January 17, 2015 at 9:51 pm

    You are such a wonderful supportive person, I am glad you recognise the signs, that has got to help in some way? How wonderful that you are in a better place now than you were then. I am sure there will be ups and downs everyone has them right? You are a super strong lady you need to remember this on those bad days x
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      Mrs H
      January 18, 2015 at 9:41 am

      Lovely Sarah, thanks for your kind comment. Knowing the signs does really help. It means I can do what I need to do to get myself better. The love and support of lots of wonderful friends also helps. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Katy (What Katy Said)
    January 17, 2015 at 9:37 pm

    You know I think the world of you, you have been such a support to me and always so kind to everyone around you. Definitely time to start taking care of yourself and being kind to yourself. x
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      Mrs H
      January 17, 2015 at 9:47 pm

      Darling Katie. Thank you for your lovely comment. You are too kind. You are right though I probably should start taking care of myself more than I do. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Heledd
    January 17, 2015 at 8:25 pm

    Mrs H, in my humble opinion you are a brave, beautiful, talented, caring and wonderful person. I know you have a sensitive side and suffer these dark days but please, please try and remember my words because they’re true! And you owe it to yourself and you family to believe in yourself and love yourself.

    You support me so much and I want you to know that I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. xxxxx
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      Mrs H
      January 18, 2015 at 9:42 am

      Lovely Heledd, thank you so much for this gorgeous comment. I am so lucky to have such wonderful and supportive friends. I feel very blessed. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Lorna
    January 17, 2015 at 8:09 pm

    I don’t know I feel very entitled to comment on this having not experienced depression but didn’t want to read and run. Thank you for sharing your experience and being so open. I have honestly learnt a lot tonight. Hope you continue to feel well x
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      Mrs H
      January 18, 2015 at 9:44 am

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I am glad that you were able to learn a little from my post. I like to be open and honest about my depression. It is part of my life and I find talking about it helps me and others. Take care. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    everything mummy
    January 17, 2015 at 8:05 pm

    great post its brilliant that you are conscious of the things that can effect your depression and are making sure you stay on the happy positive track!
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      Mrs H
      January 18, 2015 at 9:48 am

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I like to stay happy and positive as much as possible. So it is really great that I can tell when things aren’t brilliant and can put them right. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Jenna
    January 17, 2015 at 5:22 pm

    It’s so, so important to know the signs and glad you know how to make the changes to make yourself feel better – even if those changes are really bloody hard (or so they seem when you are feeling that low.)

    Love you, Mrs H.

    Jenna at Tinyfootsteps xx

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      Mrs H
      January 18, 2015 at 9:50 am

      Thank you for your kind comment. I love you too. It is really hard sometimes to make positive changes when all you want to do is curl up in bed. But I know that I feel so much happier for doing them. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    You Baby Me Mummy
    January 17, 2015 at 10:09 am

    Oh huni. Well I am glad that you know the signs and can work through things to start feeling better again. I love you and you are fabulous xxxx
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      Mrs H
      January 17, 2015 at 10:56 am

      Thank you so much darling lady. Knowing the signs is half the battle. Thanks for your kind words. I love you too. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Mini Travellers
    January 17, 2015 at 9:50 am

    I hope that your workout this morning did the trick for today lovely. Great post and one that definitely needs to be out there! x
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      Mrs H
      January 25, 2015 at 11:30 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I am loving my Tough Mumma bootcamp on Saturday mornings. It is definitely helping my mood. Fun, fresh air and exercise. All designed to encourage me to smile. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Kat | Beau Twins
    January 17, 2015 at 8:14 am

    Oh gorgeous lady, I can totally relate. You are doing so well and it’s great that you can spot the signs. You are right, allowing yourself to have time alone is important to regroup our thoughts and clear our mind before it gets all caught up in the mania stage. I am always here for you, don’t forget it! I did tag you on instagram yesterday to do something for you and you alone! Hope you saw it! I was having some much needed VERY rare time drinking a hot chocolate alone – I needed 1/2 an hour! Sending so many hugs and love! xxxxxx
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      Mrs H
      January 25, 2015 at 11:29 pm

      Darling Kat. Thank you for your lovely comment. Taking time out is so important. It is wonderful just to be able to have five minutes to be able to breathe and think. It also helps you slow down and not feel so stressed. I did see your tag and it took me a few days but i did go for brunch on my own. It was bliss. I love you and I’m always here for you too. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Tor Lysaght
    January 16, 2015 at 11:07 pm

    I think you highlight some important things to keep a check on when you have mental health issues. I’m prone to stress and anxiety and you are so right about your check list. The old ‘healthy body, healthy mind’ really does help enormously. It’s not easy being brave and talking about these things but you’re so right to do it. Not only does it serve as a bit of therapy for you but it definitely helps others who may be too scared to talk about their own issues. You are right to be proud. I’m really enjoying your blog Mrs H, I shall be back for more. Take care of yourself xx

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      Mrs H
      January 16, 2015 at 11:13 pm

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment. You have made my day. A long time ago I didn’t have the inclination to look after myself. I didn’t care if I spent weeks in bed. My life is so different now that I want to look after myself. So I have to make a conscious decision to do it. As you say ‘healthy body, healthy mind’. Take care of yourself and thank you for visiting my blog. I hope to see you around this neck of the woods again soon. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Astrid
    January 13, 2015 at 9:01 pm

    This is a great post with lots of questions in it that anyone needs to ask themself who is dealing with mental illness. I have borderline personaliyt disorder and came close to depression in 2007, but I’ve never been clinically depressed. I’m sorry that you were not feeling well when writing this, but glad you were taking note of it so that you could do something about it. I realize this post is old so I hope you’re feeling better now. #SyndayStars
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      Mrs H
      January 14, 2015 at 4:01 pm

      Dear Astrid. Thanks so much for your lovely comment. It is so important to take care of yourself when you suffer from mental illness. I have suffered from depression for a long time now. I know the signs of when I am getting ill and I now know exactly what I need to do to make myself feel better. The only problem is making yourself do those things when all you feel like doing is hibernating in bed. Thanks also for your good wishes. I am pleased to say that I am really well at the moment. Take care of yourself. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Ashley Rogers
    June 30, 2014 at 7:59 pm

    Above all else be kind to yourself. X

    PS. A 30 second dance party can do a lot of good for the soul too…

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      Mrs H
      July 1, 2014 at 8:36 pm

      Hi Ashley. Thanks for your lovely comment. Being kind to myself is very important. It is so easy to see all the things that go wrong and forget about all the wonderful quirks of life. That is why I began this blog to remind myself of what makes me smile. I hope it makes others smile too.

      Hugs

      Mrs H

      xxxx

      PS I love a 30 second dance party. Putting the radio on and dancing like an idiot is such good therapy. My daughter loves it too and always giggles hysterically at her odd mummy. xx

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    Mrs H
    June 28, 2014 at 9:39 pm

    Hello Paula. Thank you for your lovely comment and for coming to visit my little blog. Sadly I’m always going to have depression. That is just a fact of life. But I can manage it and look after myself properly and that helps. I hope you are well and that the t-shirt is currently in storage.

    Hugs

    Mrs H

    xxxx

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    paulareednancarrow.com
    June 28, 2014 at 3:05 pm

    I know I am commenting on #ArchiveDay, so things have probably changed – as they do, whether we fix our “faults” or not. But support is always worth having on this journey. And been there, done that, have the t-shirt. Luck, and love, from one of the 1 in 4.

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