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Happy birthday, dearest friend

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Believe it or not, my blog is three years old. I wrote my first blog post on 23rd March 2012.
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In March 2012, I had just returned to work after 3 months off sick with depression. During my time off work, I began to see a Cognitive Behavioural therapist. She suggested that I start writing a blog as a form of therapy.

When I am low, I struggle to remember the things in my life that bring me happiness.  I need to remind myself that this world is full of wonder and beauty. I decided that I would write a blog that would focus on the moments that make me smile.

Mrs H’s favourite things was born.

Blogging became a sporadic hobby. I didn’t publicise my posts (apart from the odd email to family). I had never heard of Britmums, Tots100, WordPress or a linky. They all sounded very alien to me.

I wrote when I felt like it and when I needed reminding of the good things in life. I wrote the post Smiles of summer a few month after suffering my first missed miscarriage. I needed to know that in amongst the sadness there had also been happiness and laughter.

Between March 2012 and June 2014, I wrote nine posts.

Then one day I completed a survey for Mumsnet about my miscarriage experience. Shortly afterwards, Mumsnet contacted me and asked me to write a blog post in support of their Miscarriage Care Campaign.

The response I received was amazing. Sharing my experience helped others. And that meant a huge amount. I was able to turn a negative experience into a positive.

From that moment, blogging became a passion.

I spent hours reading other parenting blogs. I soon found my favourites that I read frequently. I began to feel that I knew the women behind You Baby Me Mummy, Diary of a Midlife Mummy and Mummy of Boy Girl Twins.

I loved their humour. Their sensitivity. Their kindness. Their style of writing. And I loved the warmth of their personalities that shone from every word.

I read their blogs to laugh, to cry, to learn and to be inspired. They inspired me to be a better mother and a better blogger.

Gradually, I gained more confidence in my writing and I began to post more frequently. I joined Google+, Instagram and Facebook. I read essays on how to publicise posts on social media, how to hone my writing skills and the basics of SEO.

I interacted more on Twitter and stumbled across a fabulous group of blogging friends. These women support and inspire me every day. They have encouraged me to grow my blog. But they have also held my hand through some tough personal situations.

They taught me that my blog didn’t need to focus on baking, craft, family, parenting or books to be a success. These wonderful women helped me to discover my blogging niche. And that blogging niche is me.

No one else can write with my voice. No one else can share the experiences I have been through. No one else can capture my thoughts and my feelings.

I am an individual and my blog is a representation of that individuality.

And that is why I love it. It is a little piece of me that I am sharing with the wider world.

I might never get wonderful stats. I might never be award-winning. But I am okay with that.

I write for me. I write for my family. And I write for any person who has suffered from mental health problems and believes that it will stop them living the life they want.

Because I was that person. At 23 years of age, I thought my life was falling down around me. I could not see a future.

Now I am a wife, a mother and a blogger.

So, dearest blog, I want to thank you. Thank you for making me realise how far I have come in life. As a person and as a blogger.

Thank you for boosting my self-esteem and confidence. Thank you for giving me a sense of pride. Thank you.

You are more than a blog. You are a dear friend.

Happy birthday!

Hugs

Mrs H

xxxx

Ps. If you enjoyed reading this post then please nominate me for the Inspire category at the Brilliance in Blogging Awards 2015. Thank you so much, you lovely people.

Mami 2 Five
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28 Comments

  • Reply
    Mrs H
    April 13, 2015 at 9:01 pm

    Thank you for your lovely comment and thank you for including me in your new post. You are so kind. Blogging is amazing, isn’t it! I am so glad that we both started blogging. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    23weeksocks
    April 12, 2015 at 8:07 pm

    Happy blogging birthday!! I started blogging for so many of the same reasons. I’ve included it in my new post http://23weeksocks.com/2015/04/12/this-week-i-read-1/

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    LittleOandMe
    March 31, 2015 at 8:08 pm

    Happy Blog Birthday to you!! What a wonderful post and made we well up at the end. I love your blog and its an inspiration to me, you definitely don’t need to be award winning or have high stats to have a voice that people look up to.
    Xxx

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      Mrs H
      May 3, 2015 at 8:29 pm

      Thank you so much for your kind comment. It made me well up. It is so lovely to hear when brilliant bloggers read and enjoy my blog. It makes me feel very humble. I am so blessed to be a blogger. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    martyn
    March 31, 2015 at 7:29 pm

    Aw how fabulous! Happy blogging birthday! It’s amazing what blogging can give you. Am always pleased to come and have a read of your blog. 🙂

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      Mrs H
      May 3, 2015 at 8:30 pm

      Thanks for your kind comment, Martyn. I always love it when you come and comment on my blog. Because your comments are all so lovely. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Lisa (mummascribbles)
    March 28, 2015 at 8:34 pm

    Happy 3rd birthday to your wonderful blog. What you’ve come through and where you are, you should be so proud of yourself. When I read your posts, see your photos, read your Twitter, I truly cannot identify with that person you sometimes write about. I know she is always there because I know it’s not that easy but you are so brave and such a wonderful mummy that truly, if I didn’t read it, I wouldn’t believe you. I’m so glad that you have found your blogging niche and that everything you’ve been through has made your blog the amazing one it is now. Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday
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      Mrs H
      May 3, 2015 at 8:33 pm

      Lisa, this is the most amazing and lovely comment. Thank you. I agree with what you say because that is how I feel too. Even though I know it is my life and my past that I am talking about. Sometimes it feels like I am recalling a plot from a book I’ve read. It is very surreal. I am so thrilled that you read my blog. You are lovely. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Amy Ngai
    March 27, 2015 at 2:15 pm

    What a wonderful post. I just recently started blogging and this really makes me to feel good about what I’m doing. Thank you for this. Found you on Twinkly Tuesday

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    mummyofboygirltwins
    March 25, 2015 at 7:30 pm

    Wow I am SO honoured to be in your list of blogs that you read! I am so touched thank you!! Amazing. Your blog is a real credit to you; you show warmth, empathy and honesty in your writing and everyone who visits is drawn in. Including me. Keep writing your lovely posts Mrs H and happy birthday lovely blog!! Jess xx

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    Mini Travellers
    March 25, 2015 at 5:07 pm

    Lovely lovely post Mrs H. Happy Bloganniversary to you and your blog. Love reading you and all your honest views. #sundaystars
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    Jenna
    March 24, 2015 at 9:59 pm

    I’m so pleased blogging has brought you such positive things. I for one am glad you started because otherwise I wouldn’t have the lovely Mrs H in my life.

    Happy bloggy birthday, hun.

    Jenna at Tinyfootsteps xx

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    Kat | Beau Twins
    March 24, 2015 at 8:50 pm

    What a beautiful post lovely. Happy blog birthday to you, happy blog birthday to you. What a journey and I am so pleased I met you through this wonderful world of blogging. Here’s to more fabulous years ahead gorgeous. xxxx

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    A Cornish Mum
    March 24, 2015 at 7:59 pm

    What a beautiful emotive post! Happy blog birthday lovely, you deserve the stats and awards, but I’m glad blogging has given you so much regardless! It’s amazing how therapeutic it is to spill your inner thoughts out into a blog post, even if sometimes I don’t actually publish the post afterwards!
    Stevie xx
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    Maria Noell
    March 24, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    Beautiful post from a beautiful lady. Happy Birthday :-)…… I’m so glad that your blog has come to mean so much to you, I can completely understand why xxx

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    Leigh - Headspace Perspective
    March 24, 2015 at 2:54 pm

    Happy blog birthday, lovely lady! Completely agree with what you say, it’s about giving yourself a voice, saying what you want, and helping others too. You write beautifully and honestly. I’m glad blogging introduced us to each other, too. Here’s to a bright blogging future 🙂 xxx

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    Caro | The Twinkles Momma
    March 24, 2015 at 1:24 pm

    Aaaah what a gorgeous, fantabulous post!! Happy birthday to your little blog!! Keep up the good work sweetheart — you write so beautifully — you certainly deserve to be award winning! Big kiss to you and happy blogiversary to your online diary xx

    Caro | http://www.thetwinklediaries.co.uk
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    Stephanie
    March 24, 2015 at 12:17 pm

    happy blog-birthday, they go so quick don’t they. And apologies but I will try harder and get over to your fab Linky soon xx
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    Rachel
    March 24, 2015 at 9:45 am

    This is just beautiful. I love your writing and honesty. I can only hope that it a few years my tiny blog might grow to be a reflection of my voice, it’s so easy to get caught up in what I feel I should be writing and forget to just write what matters to me. It’s inspiring to hear your journey with your blog. Happy blogiversary. Xx

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    Julia @ rainbeaubelle
    March 24, 2015 at 8:49 am

    What a lovely post, happy blog birthday to you! Such a great attitude to have, a blog is a personal space to express yourself and if that helps others well that is an amazing bonus! So glad I got to know you and your blog! Xx
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    Sammy
    March 24, 2015 at 8:32 am

    Such a wonderfully written post as always MrsH and a mahoosive happy birthday to your ‘friend’ and you …. I hope there’s cake!!! Big hugs xxx

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    Janice Mackin
    March 24, 2015 at 8:30 am

    Beautiful post. Happy blog birthday 🙂 x

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    Katy
    March 24, 2015 at 8:24 am

    Happy bloggy birthday lovely! So glad you decided to start your blog as it is beautiful, as are you xxx
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    sarah christie
    March 24, 2015 at 7:53 am

    A beautiful post Mrs H, I am so glad we are friends you are a wonderful person and an inspiration to others. Happy Birthday x
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    You Baby Me Mummy
    March 24, 2015 at 7:46 am

    Such a beautiful post huni, thanks so much for mentioning me, I am very flattered. I am so glad that blogging has given you so much. Me too! xxx
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    Heledd
    March 24, 2015 at 7:24 am

    Happy Blogging Birthday Mrs H!! This is such a beautifully written post. Your blog is wonderfully inspiring and is one of my favourites. Keep on the good work!! Can’t wait to see (and read) what the future holds ; )
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    Karen
    March 24, 2015 at 6:39 am

    Gorgeous post lovely. Happy Blogiversary to you and you “dear friend”! I love reading your blog and your honesty in your writing. You don’t need stats or awards to make your blog have meaning, as it already does x

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