Pregnancy after baby loss

24 weeks pregnant – a huge milestone

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Last Thursday, Thursday 31st March 2016, was quite a momentous day for me.

It was the day I turned 24 weeks pregnant.

It was the day that our baby became viable. A horrible term. But a milestone that means a huge amount to me and to Mr H.

It was a day that I believed would never come.

We still have a long way to go until our baby boy is safely here. 16 weeks and counting.

However, getting this far in the pregnancy has put a smile on my face.

I know that I haven’t done any traditional blogging pregnancy updates, but today (at 24 weeks +6) I thought I would share one with you.

24 weeks pregnant – an update

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Bump

That is my bump. My 24 week bump. A bump that I am hugely proud of and love.

It is a sign that our baby boy is growing big and strong.

And I am carrying him in my belly. Isn’t that miraculous?

I know it is a large bump.

And a few people have commented on this.

At first, I let their comments hurt me (even though I know it wasn’t their intention to offend). It made me feel ashamed of my bump. A bump that I have wanted for so long. And been through so much to get.

In future, when someone comments on my size. I am going to smile and remind myself that my growing belly is a sign that my darling boy is doing well. And that makes me happy.

Little Miss H

Little Miss H seems to be coping well with the idea of having a baby brother. Although, I am not quite sure she understands fully.

We try to talk to her about the baby as much as possible. And every night she gives the bump a little kiss and cuddle and says “goodnight” and “I love you” to her baby brother. Cute!

Little Miss H and I have made a little update video. In it we mention two books that we are currently reading to Little Miss. These books are designed to help her understand mummy’s pregnancy and the responsibilities of being a big sister.

I was planning for this video to be longer. But it seems that the old adage “never work with children and animals” is completely true. I will create another video of outtakes to prove my point.

The books mentioned in the video above are:

If you are about to introduce another baby into your family, then I highly recommend both these books. They are fantastic and Little Miss H loves them.

Emotions

My emotions have been a little up and down. I cry at the most stupid things.

I am ashamed to say that an episode of “Topsy and Tim” made me quite tearful. I even think that I cried in the finale of “The Night Manager”.

Reaching this milestone has helped.

I do feel less anxious and I am making a conscious effort to enjoy this pregnancy now.

However, I am still getting anxiety dreams. Only now they have moved from being about miscarriages to giving birth prematurely. I am using a lot of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques to stop these dreams affecting me. They are, after all, thoughts. They are not facts. And they don’t have control over me.

Reassurance

Because of my history, I am getting a few more appointments than normal, both with a midwife and a consultant. And I am lucky that at every appointment they listen for the baby’s heartbeat. At my last appointment, my consultant was unable to find the baby’s heartbeat with the Doppler, and I ended up having an impromptu scan. I can not describe how reassuring this was.

Little Mister H is also a huge fidget. I can feel him moving around so much. And the other day I sneezed and he gave me a massive kick in reply.

These sensations are now so strong. And every kick makes me smile and helps me to know that he is doing okay.

Planning

Up until this point I haven’t really thought about the practicalities of having a second child. It all seemed so far off and remote.

But I know that the next few months will now zoom past.

It feels like we have a huge amount to get done before Little Mister H arrives. I am trying my hardest not to get stressed about this. But unfortunately, in my hormonal state, there have been moments when I have found it all too much.

I know that we will get everything done. And if we don’t then it won’t be the end of the world.

I am looking forward to going shopping.

So far, we have bought Little Mister one piece of clothing. This gorgeous dinosaur sleepsuit from JoJo Maman Bebe. And a lovely PR company have sent us this beautiful Sunny Days babygrow from Frugi UK because they saw that it was featured in my Rainbow Wishlist for a baby boy.

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They are both adorable but I think our baby boy is going to need more than two babygrows. I must write a list of everything we need (if you are all interested then I can share this on the blog).

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I hope that you enjoyed my first proper pregnancy update and my video with Little Miss H (if you did like the video then please remember to subscribe to my YouTube channel and give the film a big thumbs up).

I am hoping to do an update post every four weeks from now on and maybe more regularly as we reach D-Day! If there is anything that you would like me to include in these posts then please let me know in the comments.

Hugs

Lucy

xxxx

32 Comments

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    David Eden Sangwell
    April 24, 2016 at 4:18 am

    Hey there! I hope everything is going well! I’m Mr MommaBoss – just so you know who this is! It’s my first time reading your blog but I’m delighted to read (at 05:15am, just in from work) that things are going well for you. 🙂

    I’m not sure why I felt I should leave a comment, but perhaps it’s because your story gives us more hope after what Jo’s been through. Mrs H, I wish you the least eventful of pregnancies and an I can’t wait to find out more about the addition to your family! 🙂

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      Mrs H
      May 6, 2016 at 11:46 pm

      Thank you, thank you for this lovely comment. It means the world to me. I really struggled with knowing whether I should share my pregnancy or not. I didn’t want to upset anyone. But I have had such lovely feedback from couples who have been through similar experiences. And I know how heartbreaking it is and I wish you didn’t have to go through it. But I am so pleased that my story gives you hope. I am now 29 weeks pregnant and still amazed that we have made it this far. I feel very very lucky. And I really hope that you are equally lucky soon. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Alex Lamb & Bear
    April 14, 2016 at 12:39 pm

    Love this update hun! (Sorry I’m so late commenting!) Lovely bump photo too 🙂 That baby grow is perfect for rainbow baby boy xxx

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      Mrs H
      May 6, 2016 at 11:47 pm

      Thanks for your comment honey. The baby grow is perfect isn’t it? I am all about the rainbows. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Mini Travellers
    April 11, 2016 at 12:09 pm

    That Frugi baby gro is beautiful I adore Frugi stuff and had loads for the girls when they were younger.

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      Mrs H
      May 6, 2016 at 11:48 pm

      Hello lovely. I adore Frugii too. And the rainbow baby grow just couldn’t be more perfect for my rainbow baby boy. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Petite Pudding
    April 10, 2016 at 12:04 pm

    24 weeks is massive milestone – congrats! Before you know you little man will be modelling the cute Frugi baby grow. As for the not having brought anything, there is still loads of time to find all those bits and pieces you don’t need but just have to have 🙂 #SundayStars

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      Mrs H
      May 6, 2016 at 11:49 pm

      Thanks for your lovely comment and for the reassurance about not having bought anything. I am now 29 weeks and I still haven’t bought anything. Argh! I am sure it will all be fine. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Crummy Mummy
    April 10, 2016 at 9:30 am

    I hate the way people feel the need to comment on the size of bumps! Glad to hear everything is going well – after two miscarriages my fourth pregnancy was the longest nine months ever so I know how you feel x #sundaystars

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      Mrs H
      May 6, 2016 at 11:52 pm

      Thanks for your comment lovely. This pregnancy does seem to be going on forever and ever. Although I am now 29 weeks and I am sure the next 11 weeks will whizz by. We have so much to do before Little Mister H arrives. And you are so right, I just wish people didn’t feel the need to comment on people’s bumps. It can be really worrying. Or, in my case, put the fear of God into you that you are going to have to push out an enormous baby. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    becca farrelly
    April 10, 2016 at 9:03 am

    What a lovely bump you have! I’m so pleased to read that everything is going ok, it must be quite stressful for you but the end is in sight! Good Luck! 🙂

    #sundaystars

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      Mrs H
      May 6, 2016 at 11:54 pm

      Thanks lovely. It has been pretty stressful but we are definitely on the homeward stretch. I just want Little Mister H in my arms and save at home with us. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Kat
    April 10, 2016 at 8:31 am

    Such a beautiful update! I can completely understand the anxiety but I’m glad to hear you’re starting to enjoy pregnancy a little more. A great milestone to reach. x#SundayStars

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      Mrs H
      May 6, 2016 at 11:56 pm

      Awww, thank you. It is nice, I am finally enjoying the pregnancy now. But it feels like the third trimester is going quickly already. Baby Boy will be here before we know it and I am not at all prepared. Argh! Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Hannah Budding Smiles
    April 10, 2016 at 5:42 am

    I love that bump shot, you look gorgeous and your bump is perfection! Everyone tells me how huge I look yet bump is measuring a week behind, I think it’s just one of those annoying stock comments people say. I’m so happy for you having reached this milestone and have fun getting things ready for your little man, that Frugi sleepsuit is gorgeous!xx

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      Mrs H
      May 6, 2016 at 11:58 pm

      Oh thank you lovely lady. You are so kind. I wish people would stop commenting on bump size. They aren’t professionals so how would they know? Anyway, I still need to start shopping. I haven’t bought Little Mister H anything yet. It feels like we have so much to do before we can even think about our Baby Boy arriving on the scene. But I also know that it will sneak up quickly. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Kaye
    April 10, 2016 at 5:05 am

    So so happy for you Lucy! Lovely to read up on how little man is doing and you look gorgeous. My bump is also pretty huge this time round (I’m 23 weeks). In love with that Frigid sleeps it, so gorgeous! #sundaystars

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      Mrs H
      May 7, 2016 at 12:01 am

      Thanks so much for your lovely comment. I love being pregnant at the same time as so many other fabulous women. It is wonderful to be able to support each other and to watch as each of our pregnancies develop. I am completely in love with the frugii sleepsuit too. It is gorgeous. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    The London Mum
    April 7, 2016 at 1:26 pm

    That Frugi baby grow is gorgeous, and so fitting for your rainbow baby. Congratulations to getting to 24 weeks. Here’s to the next 16 weeks.. they’ll whizz by and he’ll be in your arms soon. xx

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      Mrs H
      April 7, 2016 at 8:46 pm

      Awww, thanks so much lovely. I really hope that the next 16 weeks will whizz by. And the Frugi babygrow is gorgeous. Little Mister H is going to look perfect in it. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Cydney
    April 7, 2016 at 12:58 pm

    Aww what a lovely update! Your bump is gorgeous and healthy and you look so happy in that photo 🙂
    It’s so sweet that your little girl is being so loving towards him already, looks like she’s going to be a great big sister!

    Great post
    – Cydney x

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      Mrs H
      April 7, 2016 at 8:54 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I think Little Miss H will be a fabulous big sister too. And she is so cute when she talks about the baby. And thanks for your kind words about my bump. I am very proud of it. We have gone through so much to get to this stage. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Zoe Alicia
    April 7, 2016 at 12:53 pm

    It is a HUGE milestone – well done! I’m sure the rest of the time will just fly. Best wishes for the rest of the pregnancy xx
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      Mrs H
      April 7, 2016 at 8:58 pm

      Thanks Zoe, that is very kind of you. It does feel like a great milestone to reach. But I know that I will feel truly happy when we have our baby at home with us. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Life as Mum
    April 7, 2016 at 10:03 am

    I am so pleased you have reached 24 weeks 🙂 All the best for the rest of the pregnancy. You are looking lovely. X

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      Mrs H
      April 7, 2016 at 9:02 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I am so thrilled to reach 24 weeks too. I really didn’t think it would happen. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Niki - Play & Learn Every Day
    April 7, 2016 at 8:54 am

    Congratulations on reaching this huge milestone! You sound incredibly prepared, and I’m sure that the rest of the pregnancy will go by so quickly now. Looking forward for cute newborn baby photos 🙂

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      Mrs H
      April 7, 2016 at 9:04 pm

      Thanks for you comment. I am really not prepared at all. We have so much to do before Little Mister H arrives. And you are right, the time will go by very quickly now. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Victoria
    April 7, 2016 at 7:44 am

    24 weeks is such a milestone. For me getting there was brilliant especially as my friends daughter was born at 23 weeks and is now nearly two!

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      Mrs H
      April 7, 2016 at 9:07 pm

      Oh my gosh, 23 weeks. That is scary!!! But it is lovely to hear that she is now nearly two. Getting to 24 weeks is a huge milestone. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Leanne Cornelius
    April 6, 2016 at 8:45 pm

    Happy (belated) V Day! I remember how excited I was when I hit that milestone.
    You’re looking well, be proud of your bump, even if it is huge! I loved it when people told me how massive I was haha!

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      Mrs H
      April 7, 2016 at 9:11 pm

      Ha ha! I have never heard of it called V Day before. It does feel like such a great milestone. And you are right, I should be pleased when people tell me I am big because it means that our baby is growing in my belly. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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