Elidih pointed out that we very rarely look in the mirror and see something we like. It is much easier to find the things that you dislike or want to change.
But isn’t it time we were kinder to ourselves? Isn’t it time we take a moment to really look at ourselves in the mirror and appreciate the features that make us beautiful and unique?
That is why this challenge was born. And the idea is simple.
I need to look at myself in the mirror and pick 5 features from my face or body that I really like. Then next time I look in the mirror and think ‘yuck’, I can give my confidence a boost by remembering that I have many beautiful features.
The five things body confidence challenge
I have never had the greatest body confidence.
There have been times in my life (often coinciding with depressive episodes) when I have hated most things about myself. Particularly my physical appearance. At those times I have thought of myself as truly hideous.
Since going to university (back in the 90’s) my weight has fluctuated hugely. And there were times when I would alternate between starving myself for days and then binge eating and making myself very sick.
It is only since being in my 30’s that I have actually felt more confident in my skin and happy with my appearance.
I know that I am not a supermodel but I also know that I am significantly prettier than Jabba the Hut.
Unfortunately, there are times when I still hate my body. When I feel it has failed me. Because it has miscarried four babies, caused me pain, been weak or does not look as I would like.
This week has been one of those weeks. I am almost 29 weeks pregnant and my body is now sore and achy. Sometimes I have been in so much pain that I have barely been able to get off the sofa. I have lower back, bottom and thigh pain from sciatica and also, Little Mister H has recently moved position and is now pressing on some vital organ that is protesting against his presence.
This week I have cursed my body. And so now is the perfect time to take on the body confidence challenge. To look at myself and find five physical features that I love.
1. My eyes
My eyes are a lovely blue-grey colour and they have a pleasant shape. They are open and honest and I always smile with my eyes as well as my lips. They are truly the windows to my soul. And they often express my inner feelings, even if the rest of me is hiding them.
2. My cheek bones
I have high cheek bones that open up my face and make it look bright, kind and friendly.
3. My hair
My hair is probably my favourite feature. I have always loved the colour. It is a rich brown but also has hints of auburn, copper and blond. I have only dyed my hair a handful of times and I have never felt fully happy with it. So I am not looking forward to going grey.
My hair is very soft and in good condition. Although it is very fine there is a lot of it and so it is very good for holding styles. I can pretty much do whatever I want with it and I know it will look pretty.
4. My hands
I get my long, slim fingers from my Gran. They are feminine and graceful.
5. My legs
I am blessed to have nice shapely long legs. And as a result, I don’t mind wearing short skirts, especially when teamed with opaque tights. (Much to my friends’ amusement, I have been known to wear inappropriately short skirts.)
There you have it! Those are the five parts of my body that I like the most.
If you suffer from low body confidence or poor self image (and most of us do from time to time) then I encourage you to look at yourself in the mirror through kind eyes. Start looking for the parts of yourself that make you smile and not the things that you wish to change.
It may be the first step on the journey to loving yourself a little more.