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50 reasons why I feel guilty

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I feel guilty all the time. Mum guilt. Wife guilt. Friend guilt. The list goes on and on.

And bloody hell, it is exhausting feeling this way. Beating myself up emotionally for every little mistake I make or every time I don’t live up to the image of perfection that I aspire to.

But I’m human. I make mistakes and I’m not perfect. So this leads to a great deal of guilt.

Over the years I have learnt that writing down my feelings can highlight how ridiculous they are. That they’re just silly thoughts and not facts. And they don’t have any power.

So here is a list of 50 reasons why I feel guilty.

50 reasons why I feel guilty

I feel guilty because I…

1. have a little nap while Little Miss H watches cBeebies

2. let Little Miss H watch cBeebies

3. don’t take Little Miss H to any extra curricular classes

4. go to bed too late

5. don’t drive and so the children miss out on seeing their friends and going to exciting places

6. go to bed too early

7. give Little Miss H fish fingers, chips and peas for dinner far too much

8. get shampoo in Little Miss H’s eyes when I wash her hair

9. throw out any toys that come out of Kinder eggs

10. am sometimes late dropping Little Miss H at preschool

11. am really lazy

12. don’t clean the house as much as I should

13. rely on Mr H far too much

14. don’t give Mr H enough lie ins

15. haven’t been on a date night with Mr H in over a year

16. don’t cook enough evening meals

17. was anxious throughout my pregnancy with Little Mister H

18. had issues breast feeding

19. don’t want to go to my 20 year school reunion

20. once laughed when someone told me they loved me

21. post photos of Mr H on social media even though I know he hates it

22. snap at Little Miss H and upset her

23. get upset when Little Miss H wants her Daddy and not me

24. don’t speak to my brothers as much as I should

25. never tried cloth nappies on our children

26. don’t see my family as much as I should

27. haven’t taken Little Mister H to any baby classes on his own

28. won’t let Little Miss H wear summer dresses every day of the year

29. eat far too much cake, chocolate and biscuits

30. don’t exercise enough

31. am a bad example for my children

32. have low self-confidence which I don’t want my children to see

33. don’t tell my parents I love them enough

34. want to pee without an audience

35. would love to have a day at a spa away from my children

36. lose my patience and get exasperated by my children

37. wish Little Miss H was less cheeky

38. take 50 years to do any job

39. am no longer organised

40. don’t reply to friend’s texts and messages as quickly as I should

41. force myself on friends who are probably sick of me

42. get a little jealous when my friends see each other and I miss out

43. am dreading my children being teenagers

44. don’t do enough for charity

45. want my children to wake up in the night so that I can give them extra cuddles

46. am a rubbish blogger

47. want my blog to be much more successful when I should love it as it is

48. fail to finish any blogging course I take part in

49. don’t appreciate every moment that I spend with my children

50. don’t tell my husband and children that I love them at every opportunity

There you have it! A list of 50 random reasons why I feel guilty.

And as I had hoped they do look ridiculous written down. Carrying around this amount of guilt is too much. No more!

If any of these reasons seem familiar to you then I want you to know that you’re not alone. Guilt as a parent, goes with the territory. But it is silly and we need to put the guilt aside.

Do you ever feel guilty? Please let me know that I am not the only person.

Hugs

Lucy

xxxx

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18 Comments

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    Debs Aspland
    August 10, 2017 at 7:32 am

    Oh wow! I could have written this (if I wasn’t so lazy/a rubbish unmotivated blogger/housework averse/ unorganised, etc)!
    Thank you so much for sharing this list and making me feel less like “it’s just me”.
    You now need to write 50 things you’re proud of. Xx

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    Emma
    July 9, 2017 at 3:51 pm

    I can relate to so many of these! Sometimes I feel that no matter what I do, I would feel guilty about it for some reason!

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    Beth Owen
    May 3, 2017 at 2:32 pm

    Oh bless you Lucy! But yes I can relate to many! Mum guilt is horrible! #MarvMondays
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    Jade @ Captured By Jade
    May 2, 2017 at 3:29 pm

    We’re our own worst enemies sometimes, and that’s what I think makes this list relatable. I hope you remember all the great things you do, as well holding these guilts. I feel guilty about not driving also! #MarvMondays
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    Wenchy
    May 2, 2017 at 6:54 am

    I always say with conception comes guilt! 🙂

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    kristin mccarthy
    May 1, 2017 at 8:01 pm

    My list would probably be about a mile long at this point.

    #mrvmondays

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    Lucy Melissa Smith
    April 30, 2017 at 9:50 pm

    This is pretty similar to my list, I feel guilty a lot of the time too! I think it’s natural but we do all need to be kinder to ourselves! 🙂 xx
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    Jules Pondering Parenthood
    April 30, 2017 at 9:04 pm

    As parents we feel so guilty about so many things that we have no control over. Never feel guilty about chilling out with your babies, though! xx
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    Hannah Budding Smiles
    April 30, 2017 at 8:50 pm

    Why do we do it to ourselves? It’s such a heavy load to bear and we don’t need to feel so damn guilty. Great post darling, you’re an amazing lady xx

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    Lisa (mummascribbles)
    April 29, 2017 at 5:55 pm

    Number 48 – I am so there with you! Great post lovely – I think most of us feel a lot of these xx
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    Jeremy@ThirstyDaddy
    April 29, 2017 at 1:43 am

    I’m pretty sure that if I gave this some thought I could get to 100 fairly easily. We all torture ourselves unneccessarily

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    Morgan Prince
    April 27, 2017 at 10:05 am

    Oh gosh yes! I feel guilty all the time too. You’ve listed so many of the reasons I feel guilty. You are definitely not alone!

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    Jaime Oliver
    April 26, 2017 at 4:51 pm

    aww Lucy, I can relate to 46 of those and can add another 20 more! we are our own worst critics aren’t we.

    Sending you the biggest hug x

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    Amy @ The Smallest Of Things
    April 26, 2017 at 10:52 am

    You are definitely not the only one. I am riddled with guilt for all the things I didn’t or should of done. But all we can do is put everything into what is ahead of us 🙂 be kind to yourself sweetie ox
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    Abbie
    April 26, 2017 at 10:48 am

    I really like this post, I may have to do something similar myself as it does make you realise how much unnecessary guilt you carry around when its listed down like that. I wish we could all just let the guilt go, I really do! x
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    Alyssa
    April 26, 2017 at 10:47 am

    You really are too hard on yourself sometimes. I think everyone would like to pee in peace!
    Its a good idea writing things down like this because I’m sure if you were too read it as if someone else had wrote it you would think they were being to hard on themselves.
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    Al
    April 26, 2017 at 10:08 am

    Wow! That’s a lot of guilt to carry around. And honestly guilt you don’t need to be feeling. Hope you’ll write a 50 things that are good about me to accompany this.

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    Cara
    April 26, 2017 at 3:34 am

    Mrs. H, I think every mom can relate! You’re right, we are ridiculous bullies inside our own heads. Why is it so much harder to make a list of things we do well? Not in a boasting way, but to feel a sense of accomplishment. I enjoy reading your blog, thanks for sharing pieces of your life with us.
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