Hello and welcome to Mrs H’s favourite things. I’m Lucy, otherwise known as Mrs H. I write honestly about recurrent miscarriage, mental health and finding happiness in the little things in life. I do this to show mums who are struggling that there is always hope and that a rainbow can appear after the darkest storm.
I’m 40 years old, a wife to Mr H and mummy to our two rainbow babies, Little Miss H, who is 5 years old, and Little Mister H, who is 2. We all live in the beautiful town of Tunbridge Wells in Kent.
In 1999, I had a nervous breakdown and was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Gradually the PTSD symptoms reduced over time and I was left with severe depression and anxiety. In November 2002, I took an overdose and returned home to live with my parents.
I started to piece myself back together … piece by piece. Then I met a man and he changed my life. In 2008, we got married and I became Mrs H and was happier than I’d ever been. However, mental ill health was still part of my life and I live with chronic depression and anxiety which is managed with anti-depressants and self-care.
In March 2012, Mr H and I decided to start trying for a baby. We were lucky that I became pregnant very quickly but I sadly suffered from a missed miscarriage in June 2012. It wasn’t long after the miscarriage before I became pregnant again. In May 2013, Little Miss H was born. And Mr H and I entered the terrifying but wonderful world of parenting.
Our road to having a second child was even more bumpy. But after 3 miscarriages, I became pregnant with our second rainbow baby in November 2015. Our little boy, Little Mister H, joined our family in a hurry in July 2016 (he was born on the same day that Andy Murray won Wimbledon).
Our experience of baby loss still affects me to this day. It is something that I will never be able to forget. And in November 2018, I was once again diagnosed with PTSD as a result of our recurrent miscarriages.
More About Me
If you would like to know even more about me then please take a look at this video that Mr H produced in November 2015. At the time, I was in the very early stages of my pregnancy with Little Mister H. But in the video, I talk honestly about my blog and why I write about baby loss and mental ill health.
The Story of My Blog
I began to write this blog in March 2012. I had been signed off work for more than 3 months with a relapse in my depression. During that time, I started to attend weekly Cognitive Behavioural Therapy sessions. At one of those appointments, I decided to create a blog to record all the moments and tiny details of life that bring me happiness. I went home that night and began to write my first blog post. Mrs H’s favourite things was born.
Since then this blog has changed many times to reflect the many changes in my life. But writing is still a form of therapy for me and I continue to blog about finding happiness in life. I also write honestly about being a mother while living with a chronic mental health condition and the continued impact that baby loss has on my life. If you have come here seeking support and solace, I hope that this blog is able to give you the love and help that you need.
A Few Of My Most Popular Posts
If you are new to my blog then you may like to read my most popular posts:
- How To Survive Pregnancy After Baby Loss?
- An Open Letter To The Woman Who Just Miscarried
- 15 Ways To Look After Your Mental Health
- About Time And Deciding To Lead A Slow Life
And here are a few of my favourite posts:
- 39 Life Lessons For 39 Years
- A Recipe For Chocolate Fork Biscuits
- 73 questions
- Your current behaviour has got to stop!
- The Day I Closed The Door And Walked Away
In 2018, I was a finalist in the Inspire category of the Brilliance in Blogging Awards (BiBs).
I have also been featured in the national media sharing our story of baby loss, pre-natal anxiety and being a mother with a mental health condition:
- Metro – Pregnancy Anxiety
- The Sun – Pregnancy Anxiety
- The Daily Mail – Recurrent miscarriages
- The Sun – Recurrent miscarriages
- The Daily Express – Recurrent miscarriages
If you would like to contact me for press or work opportunities then you can email me on email@example.com.