Motherhood Thoughts & Inspiration

Talking PANTS with the NSPCC’s Underwear Rule

NSPCC's Underwear Rule_Talk PANTS

NSPCC's Underwear Rule_Talk PANTS
One of the things that I love most about Little Miss H is her ability to interact with everyone. She loves people and will socialise with anyone with a smiley face. She is also fiercely independent. And often runs off to play with another child or to giggle with an adult.

This is completely endearing and I hope that she always has that ability to get on with people. But it also worries me.

We all know that the world isn’t always a nice place. That some people can’t be trusted. That behind the smile could be a person who wishes to hurt or take advantage of my child. That sexual abuse is wide-spread and it is something we need to discuss with our children.

According to research carried out by the NSPCC in 2011, 90 per cent of sexually abused children were abused by people they know. And one in three children abused by an adult told no one at the time.

This is hideous. It sickens and terrifies me to think of someone abusing my sweet, innocent and trusting daughter.

I know that as a parent I can help to keep Little Miss H safe from abuse by talking to her about these threats. But I want to be able to talk to her without scaring her, without destroying her innocence and without taking away her belief that every new person she meets is a friend in the making.

Thankfully the NSPCC have created the Underwear Rule to help parents, like myself, talk to our children about sexual abuse. It is simple and easy to remember. But the best bit about this rule is that it doesn’t mention any scary words. It doesn’t even mention sexual abuse.

Let’s talk PANTS with NSPCC’s Underwear Rule

So, dear readers, let’s talk PANTS. PANTS is a really easy way for you to share the Underwear Rule with your child. As each line of PANTS covers a different line of the Underwear Rule:

  • Privates are private.
  • Always remember your body belongs to you.
  • No means no.
  • Talk about secrets that upset you.
  • Speak up, someone can help.


NSPCC's Underwear Rule_Talk PANTS

For more information, about talking PANTS with your child please download NSPCC’s Underwear Rule – the guide for parents. This document contains lots of advice about how you can help your child learn that their body belongs to them and no one else.

How you can help

If you have a child between 5 and 11 years old then please talk to them about the NSPCC Underwear Rule and make sure that they are familiar with PANTS.

Also if you are on social media then you can easily share the #TalkPANTS message by pasting and copying these suggested tweets and Facebook posts.


I’m talking PANTS! The @NSPCC Underwear Rule is a simple conversation you can have with your child to help keep them safe from abuse. Spread the word and share with 3 parents today. #TalkPANTS


I’m talking PANTS! The @NSPCC Underwear Rule helps keep children safe. RT and #talkPANTS today.


All parents should teach their children the @NSPCC Underwear Rule. RT and #talkPANTS today.

Please support the NSPCC’s Underwear Rule and #talkPANTS to help keep your children safe from sexual abuse.


Mrs H




  • Reply
    Hayley @hayleyfromhome
    August 14, 2015 at 1:02 pm

    I think the PANTS campaign is such a good idea and great to give parents the confidence to discuss these issues. As you say, as much as we wish there isn’t a need for it it is so important to protect our children as best we can. It’s hard to know how to bring it up with children, thanks for sharing! xx

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    Kat | Beau Twins
    August 13, 2015 at 10:00 am

    Such an important message. I must admit it petrifies me but I won’t allow the girls to live in fear. Educating them in this way is such a great idea and it’s something all parents/carers can do. Scarily in a lot of cases it is the parents which doesn’t bear thinking about. We have to do what we have to do to keep our young safe. Well done for raising awareness huni in writing this superb post. Xxx

    • Reply
      Mrs H
      August 13, 2015 at 10:39 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment. You are always so kind. It is a horrible to think that something like this could happen to your child and that as a parent you can’t protect them from everything. But it is so helpful that the NSPCC have produced such a handy resource so we can have the conversations with our children that will help to keep them safe. Thanks for sharing this post too lovely. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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    Beth @ Twinderelmo
    August 13, 2015 at 9:02 am

    I wish there was no need for this but it’s an excellent message and very worthwhile campaign. Thanks for sharing xx

    • Reply
      Mrs H
      August 13, 2015 at 10:31 pm

      I completely agree. It is horrid that we have to talk to our children about these things. I wish they never had to know about the nasty side of life. But I think the best way to protect them is to educate them and that is why the NSPCC Underwear Rule is so brilliant. Thanks for your comment lovely. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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