The Declaration of Motherhood

A photograph of a mother and her young daughter in wet weather gear paddling in the ocean - The Declaration of Motherhood - Mrs H's favourite things - a post about being a mother, about being equal and about supporting each other

I hold these truths to be self-evident that all mothers are created equal.

Irrespective of the road you’ve travelled down to become a mother, you are endowed with certain undeniable rights, and these include not being judged, being supported and being allowed to parent as you see fit.

That to secure these rights, you merely need to have the position of Mother.

Whether your child was conceived naturally, through IVF, was adopted or fostered you are a mother and I’ve been on that journey with you.

Whether your child is in your arms or in the stars you are a mother and I’ve shed tears with you.

Whether your child was born by vaginal birth, via caesarean, with the assistance of a ventouse or forceps you are a mother and I’ve been through that pain with you.

Whether you had an epidural, took pethidine, had gas and air or managed without any pain medication you are a mother and I’ve made those tough choices with you.

Whether you breastfed, combination fed, formula fed or expressed breast milk to give to your baby you are a mother and I’ve braved those battles with you.

Whether you co-slept, had your baby in a Moses basket, or in a bedside cot, did sleep training or not you are a mother and I’ve seen those sleepless nights with you.

Whether you did baby led weaning, or fed your baby food from pouches or jars or a combination you are a mother and I’ve wiped spaghetti Bolognese off my walls with you.

Whether you returned to work full-time or part-time, stay at home or work from home you are a mother and I’ve scrutinised my finances and considered all the options with you.

Whether your child is at home with you, in a nursery, at a childminder or being cared for by family members you are a mother and I’ve doubted whether I’m doing what is right for my child with you.

Whether your child is homeschooled, goes to an academy, a private school, a grammar school or a local comprehensive you are a mother and I’ve struggled with the emotion and stress of making decisions about my child’s education with you.

There are many different ways to parent. And irrespective of the decisions you make and how you choose to raise your child you are a mother. And a bloody good one at that. You love your children and you always put them first. Every day you strive to do what is right for your family.

I may not have made the same decisions as you. My journey to motherhood may be very different but I am a mother. And I love my children. I would lay down my life for them. I would do anything and everything in my power to protect them and to ensure their happiness.

I am a Mother. I’m just like you and I’m here to say that we are equals. No matter the road you travel down on your parenting journey, I’m travelling down another bumpy road with you. And I’m here to hold your hand. So that we can make this journey together.

Because we are mothers. And I love and support you.

I hold this truth to be self-evident, that all Mothers are created equal.

This is the declaration of motherhood.





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    October 1, 2018 at 2:08 pm

    Love this! So positive, affirming, and true. I struggled with breastfeeding and had to bottle feed in the end, & it was hard not to feel inadequate.

    Tracy xxx

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      Mrs H
      October 14, 2018 at 2:07 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I’m so sorry that you struggled to breastfeed. I did too. And I still feel guilty about it today. But it is important that no matter our choices, us mums should stick together. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Lucy At Home
    February 5, 2018 at 8:04 pm

    This is brilliant! And oh so true. I wanted to give you a standing ovation at the end! Sometimes, we seem to get so divided and turn on each other, when actually we are all doing the best (and probably all finding it pretty challenging too). Thanks for the reminder that we are actually a sisterhood and should support each other as such.

    And congratulations because someone loved this post so much, they added it to the BlogCrush linky! Feel free to collect your “I’ve been featured” blog badge 🙂 #blogcrush

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    February 1, 2018 at 3:50 pm

    I am lost for words Lucy!! I don’t even know what to say… THIS IS AMAZING!

    Soffy //

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    January 31, 2018 at 10:36 am

    Oh wow, Lucy, this is such a powerful post. There is so much judgement and parent-shaming, but we are all just trying to be a parent in the way we can do it best. You are absolutely, truthfully, perfectly right: all mothers are equal.

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