Over the past few months, I’ve begun to listen to Podcasts. One of my favourite podcasts is Happier by Gretchen Rubin, the author of The Happiness Project. In one of her recent podcasts, she shared her list of 18 things she plans to do in 2018. As soon as I heard Gretchen and her sister discuss their 18 for 2018 lists, I knew that I had to write one for my blog. It’s part bucket list and part goal setting but with a focus on putting yourself first.
2017 has been much harder than anticipated. I’d assumed that now we had our rainbow baby and the recurrent miscarriages were behind us life would be perfect. But the truth is that the grief I never really accepted has caught up with me. And this has severely affected my mental health.
I love the idea of a New Year. The perfect time for a new start. To put the old behind you and move forward into the new. And 2018 is an especially important year. It’s the year of my 10th wedding anniversary and my 40th birthday. A year with lots to celebrate. But also a year to start putting myself first. I need to begin looking after myself. I must make healthier choices and prioritise my physical and mental health.
So without further ado. Here is my 18 for 2018:
18 for 2018
1. Attend a festival
I’ve only ever been to one festival and that was in my early 20s. But this year, my lovely Sister-in-law is taking me and Little Miss H to the Elderflower Fields Festival in May. It sounds perfect and I’m really excited. Expect a lot of posts about getting ready for your first family festival.
2. Read 12 books in 2018
I used to read 50 books a year but I barely get to read since having children. And I miss reading. I recently did some Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and finding time to read each day was one of my goals. I’m still struggling to do this. But I have decided that I’m going to prioritise spending time with a good book.
With that in mind, Naomi from The Organised Life Project, Jess from Catch a Single Thought and I have set up a book club on Facebook. The plan is to set a book a month and then to discuss it in the Facebook group. We will also review the books on our blogs and vlogs.
If you want to rediscover your love of reading this year, then please head over to our Facebook group and join Bookish Mamas. Our first book is The Power by Naomi Alderman. It has fantastic reviews on Good Reads and won the 2017 Baileys Women’s Prize for Fiction.
3. Go to bed by 23:30
I need to get more sleep. I can’t control if my children will wake up during the night. But I can control going to bed earlier. I plan to be in bed by 23:30 or earlier every night.
4. Go away for our 10th wedding anniversary
We’re hoping that we can convince grandparent’s to babysit so that we can go away for a long weekend.
5. Throw a party for my 40th birthday
I’m leaving this in Mr H’s capable hands but it would be nice to throw a party for my 40th birthday.
6. Take part in a 5k charity run
7. Plan my time
My recent Cognitive Behavioural Therapy taught me that I am much happier when I plan and organise my time effectively. So I need to continue using Me and My Big Ideas Happy Planner and my bullet journal to organise my days, block out my time and make sure I’m not getting overwhelmed.
8. Find a babysitter
I want to find a babysitter that we trust so that Mr H and I can have more date nights.
9. Learn how to use the manual settings on my camera
I adore our camera and the photographs it takes. But to be honest, I don’t have a clue what I’m doing. I want to teach myself how to use the manual settings on our camera and I hope to take more and better photographs.
10. Do 30 minutes exercise every day
I know this sounds an unachievable goal. But this includes walking into town, gentle stretching and more active exercise.
11. Take a day off
I plan to take every Saturday as a day free of blogging and social media. This means I can spend a fabulous day with my family and an evening where I just focus on my husband.
12. Take Little Mister H swimming
I recently started to take Little Mister H swimming. He absolutely loves it. He is a water baby. Our local sports centre runs a toddler swimming session on Wednesdays and I want to take him as much as possible.
13. Saying goodbye
In November I attended a Saying Goodbye Remembrance Service and I finished reading Zoë Clarke-Coates’ book Saying Goodbye. This was the first step in the process of grieving the loss of our four babies and being able to move forward with my life. I want to continue to do this. I NEED to continue to do this. It is not going to be easy. And I will NEVER forget. But I want to be able to remember without my heart breaking.
14. Learn to drive
I can drive but I don’t drive. I hate driving and even the thought of it sets off my anxiety. But I really need to bite the bullet and learn to drive again. I also need to work on the anxieties I have about driving. I’m considering having more Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and/ or hypnotherapy about this.
15. Get a tattoo
16. Find the perfect skincare
I need to find the perfect skincare for ageing but very sensitive and dehydrated skin. Is that too much to ask?
17. More days out with the family
Every month we make sure we have at least one day out with the family in the diary. This date is set in stone and can not be moved. We’re going to continue with this tradition into 2018. But I would love to go on more days out. Being with my family makes me so happy.
18. Gratitude list
I plan to start writing a list of all the little things that make me happy. It’s important to appreciate the little things in life that put a smile on my face.
So there you have it. It’s a little more in-depth than I first planned. But I’m really pleased with my list of 18 for 2018. Let’s hope I don’t find it too overwhelming.
I’d love the following bloggers to also share their 18 for 2018:
Jules from Pondering Parenthood; Lauren from Scrapbook Blog; Katie from Pouting in Heels; Eilidh from Mummy and Monkeys; Sarah from Toby Goes Bananas; Chelle from Daily Life Edit; Kirsty from Life with Boys; Lauren from Mummy is a Gadget Geek ; Amy from The Smallest of Things and Catherine from Rock and Roll Pussycat.
Do you write a similar list as you enter into the New Year? If so, I’d love to hear what is on your 18 for 2018.