Back in September, Mr H and I celebrated our tenth wedding anniversary. We were lucky enough to have a weekend away. Just the two of us. And Mr H’s parents very kindly agreed to stay at our house with the kids.
As we left the house on the Friday, Mr H’s mum was holding Little Mister H up by our kitchen window so he could wave at us as we drove off. It was lovely to see him with a big smile on his face (I could tell he was saying bye bye Mummy, bye bye Daddy by the way his little lips were moving). We were lucky with him; kids aren’t always this forgiving when you leave them (Little Miss H, in fact, had been upset about it for a week before we went).
Feeling The Love With Little Mister H And My First Emotions
A Warm Welcome Home
Two and a half days later we arrived back at the house, relaxed and refreshed from our brief break. It had been nice to be free from the pressures of parenting two little ones for a bit. But we were eager to see them both. The moment we walked in the door, both kids screamed with delight and ran over to give us big hugs. They’d missed us. It was love; pure and simple.
Helping our little ones to understand their emotions is important to me and Mr H. That’s why we’ve been working with the fabulous Skylark Learning and their My First Emotions learning resource over the last year. The resource is aimed at parents of 0-3-year-olds and is full of great ideas for teaching children about feelings. It focuses on five core emotions; love, happiness, sadness, anger and fear.
Robbie Feels Love
One of the things listed in the My First Emotions Parent Guide as a common cause of love in young children is Seeing an attachment figure – particularly after their absence. And that’s exactly what happened when we got back from our weekend away. That kind of language is pretty meaningless to a little one of course – which is why My First Emotions comes with some beautifully illustrated stories describing what each of the emotions feels like.
The hero of the stories is Robbie the Rabbit (you get an adorable hand puppet of Robbie to use in some of the games outlined in the activity book). The Robbie Feels Love book describes the situations in which many of our little ones would experience feelings of love: Robbie giving his Grandma a hug when she is feeling poorly; Robbie feeling safe and cared for as his Mummy and Daddy get him ready for bed. Robbie feels warm inside while these things happen.
The Thing We Most Want
Warm inside; that’s something we say all the time, isn’t it? It’s how the ones we love make us feel when we’re around them. It feels important to cherish that and not take it for granted. After all, not everyone is lucky enough to have loved ones around them. Reading the book Robbie Feels Love with Little Mister H made me want to help him tell us when he feels warm inside.
The My First Emotions Guide highlights that physical contact is a fabulous way of showing and feeling love. That’s why we give newborns skin to skin as soon as we are able. Being physically close to people we love makes our bodies release Oxytocin; a hormone that is important in forming social bonds. Physical contact also helps our little ones to feel safe, secure and loved. And aren’t these things that we want for our children? Exploring the emotion of love with Little Mister H, made me realise how important these little things (cuddling, hugging and soothing) are and how much difference they make in the life of a child.
We’ll do both of these things more as a result of the My First Emotions activities – talking about feeling warm inside and reinforcing how much we love the kids with lots of cuddles and encouraging them to do the same too.
Exploring The Other Emotions
I love using My First Emotions to explore emotions with Little Mister H. And over the next few months, I’ll let you know how we’re getting on with the other four feelings. Stay tuned for anger next!
How do you try and make your children feel loved and warm inside?
This is sponsored content. We are working with Skylark Learning to promote their My First Emotions Box. But, as always, all words, opinions and images are 100% my own and 100% honest.