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7 Things Depression Has Taught Me

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I’ve suffered from depression for 20 years now. During that time I have changed as a person. I am not the same girl that was diagnosed with depression in 1999.

I have had to change to get better. To fight the devil that is depression. The stalker that is poor mental health.

But I never expected that suffering from depression would teach me some valuable lessons about life. Lessons that I’m not always brilliant at following. Yet when I do follow them, they make me a much happier person.

7 Things Depression Has Taught Me

These are 7 things that depression has taught me:

1. Happiness Can Be Found Everywhere

When you’re in the darkness of depression it is hard to remember that there are things in this world that bring you happiness. That there are things that bring you joy. But the truth is that happiness can be found everywhere. It can be found in the smallest of things and the largest of moments. Happiness is everywhere. You just have to look for it. And when you find it, hold onto it.

2. You Can Suffer From Depression And Be A Happy Person

I like to think that I’m a happy and positive person. Smiling and laughing make me happy. I may suffer from depression and anxiety but that doesn’t mean that I am a sad person. You can suffer from depression and be a happy person.

3. Sometimes Medication Is Needed

I’ve taken anti-depressants ever since I was diagnosed with depression in 1999. And although, I know that medication isn’t right for everyone, in some instances a depression is so intense that medication is needed.

4. Being Kind Is Important

Ever since having depression, I’ve learnt that being kind is so important. You never know what someone is going through in their life. They maybe really struggling and so it never hurts to be kind. And treat others as you would like to be treated yourself.

5. Sleep Is The Greatest Healer

When my depression is at its worst all I want to do is sleep. Sleep beckons me with its open arms. I want to lose myself in its sweet nothingness. And there is a reason for this. Sleep is a wonderful healer. It’s the time when your body, mind and soul heals. So if you are tired and your body craves sleep then give in and surrender to its healing powers.

6. Putting Yourself First Is Not selfish

When you struggle with your mental health you have to learn the importance of self-care. Having an early night; taking a long hot bath; going for a leisurely walk; sitting down and reading a good book. All things that may seem selfish. But they are not. Because when you suffer from any illness putting yourself first and doing things that make you feel better MUST be a priority.

7. You Will Get Better

When you are in the midst of depression and are surrounded by darkness it feels like you will never see the light again. You are being sucked down into a whirlpool of despair and you’re struggling to breathe. But I promise you that you can and will feel better again. It may not be today. It may not be tomorrow. But some day in the future the clouds will clear and the sun will shine again.

I have suffered from depression for 20 years and during that time I have learnt many lessons from suffering from a mental health problem. These are the 7 things depression has taught me.

I often complain that I hate my depression. That I love my life but hate my depression and this is true. But I believe that suffering from a mental health condition has given me an insight that I may not have otherwise have had. It has also given me an empathetic and analytical nature that I will always be grateful for. So for that, and for the life lessons you’ve taught me, depression, I thank you.




Lucy At Home UK parenting blogger


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    Daydreams of a Mum
    February 14, 2019 at 2:19 pm

    These are all such brilliant points !! Sleep for me is a major one. It’s rare for me to wake up in the same mood I fell asleep in!! #blogcrush

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    Rebecca Smith
    February 12, 2019 at 6:12 pm

    I was going to comment on a couple of the points saying YES!…but then I realised that I was saying YES! to all seven points. We know these to be true…now we just have to live by them xxx

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    Jennifer Bergh
    February 9, 2019 at 11:41 am

    Great positive post. Its good to let people know that they can be happy even if they suffer with the bugger that is depression. Thanks for bravely speaking up #blogcrush

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    February 9, 2019 at 2:26 am

    points 1 & 2 are very important. i have a one daily positive looking for something good in every day. I have had to remind others some days that just because i found something funny or I smiled doesn’t mean I’m all of a sudden better #blogcrush

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    Tracy Albiero
    February 9, 2019 at 12:19 am

    This is great. I think many people believe depressed people are sad and look the part. Not always true. #blogcrush

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    Alice v
    February 8, 2019 at 6:24 pm

    These are great realizations. I agree that you can find happiness in so many things. I’m glad you are being positive and optimistic despite having depression. #blogcrush

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    Carmela (Bellissimamma)
    February 8, 2019 at 12:01 pm

    Such a beautiful and honest post. I can relate somehow because I felt depressed (not sure about the diagnosis) when I gave birth to my second child. Because of life’s unexpected twist, I became a stay-at-home mom and had to let go of my dream job. I don’t regret having made this decision, but I cannot help but feel very lonely sometimes. Things are much better now. Thank you for this post! #BlogCrush

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    Enda Sheppard
    February 8, 2019 at 10:03 am

    Great post … so honest, and it is really useful the way you separate the person from the depression … even the idea that someone can be a happy person and have depressive episodes is enlightening. #BlogCrush

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    Heather Keet
    February 8, 2019 at 9:51 am

    Sleep is such a great healer! #BlogCrush

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    Lucy At Home
    February 7, 2019 at 8:13 pm

    Lucy I love this post so much because it resonates with me so deeply. I have also learned all of these lessons from Depression – it forced me to adapt and change my way of thinking. I also think it’s made me a better mum because I have learnt so much about negative thought patterns and toxic beliefs, and now I am better placed to raise my children to combat these issues and have a healthy approach to life #blogcrush

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    Naomi Oikonomou
    January 30, 2019 at 10:21 pm

    beautiful and so, true! plus without your words and support there’d be one less light for others trapped in stormy seas!

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      Mrs H
      January 31, 2019 at 1:45 pm

      Oh darling you are always so kind. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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