Baby Loss Motherhood

My Rainbow Baby

A photograph of a wooden rainbow toy, some rainbow coloured confetti and three photos from a baby scan lying on a white baby blanket - My Rainbow Baby featuring Somewhere After the Ranbow _ Mrs H's favourite things

“A rainbow baby is a baby that is born following a miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death or infant loss. In the real world, a beautiful and bright rainbow follows a storm and gives hope of things getting better. The rainbow is more appreciated having just experienced the storm in comparison.”  Quotation taken from the Kicks Count website.

Four years ago, I had never heard of the term rainbow baby.

Now in October 2016, we have two beautiful rainbow babies. And they brighten our world.

My rainbow baby

It was only when Little Miss H was 6 months old and I wrote a blog post in support of Mumsnet Miscarriage Care Campaign that I realised that our daughter was a rainbow baby.

I thought the term was a beautiful way of describing the storm of miscarriage and the joy that a baby born after baby loss brings. But I didn’t really dwell on the fact that we had our very own rainbow.

In 2014 we started trying for another baby. I miscarried three times. The first miscarriage was in February 2014, the second was in October of the same year and the third was in May 2015.

During those years, I yearned for our second rainbow baby. But as time went on, I began to fear that becoming a family of four was a dream.

Then in November 2015 I discovered that I was pregnant for a sixth time.

At six weeks pregnant I was cleaning the kitchen up after baking with Little Miss. I became aware of a dampness in my knickers and I knew instantly that I was bleeding.

My consultant from the Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic told me that if I began to bleed then I needed to go to A&E. If I was going to miscarry then he wanted it to take place in hospital so that any remains could be examined for chromosomal issues.

I remember feeling calm. Sadly, from the moment I saw how much blood I was losing I assumed I was miscarrying. And I accepted it. Miscarriage seemed to be the inevitable outcome to my pregnancies.

There was little that A&E could do. I was sent home once the bleeding had settled and told to return for an early pregnancy scan.

The scan was booked for late the following afternoon. Those hours leading up to the scan were tough. I wanted to sleep and cry. Instead I focused on looking after our little girl.

That morning the weather was terrible. The pouring rain and dark skies echoed my mood. I felt miserable, sick with worry and terrified of having another early pregnancy scan.

After a few hours the clouds began to clear and the sun began to shine. And the most beautiful double rainbow I have ever seen appeared in the sky.

A stunning photograph of a double full arch rainbow against a cloudy sky with autumnal trees in the foreground - My Rainbow Baby - Mrs H's favourite things

I looked at the rainbow and cried.  It seems silly to write it now but I felt that the rainbow was shining just for me.

I wondered if it was a sign.

Would the baby in my belly be okay? Would I get to whisper the words I love you into their ear as I covered their faces in kisses?

I yearned for this to be true. Yet, at the same time I chastised myself for hoping for the best when I knew that I was likely to end up heartbroken once again.

Amazingly, the scan showed that our baby had a heartbeat and the heavy bleeding was a mystery.

If you are a regular reader then you will know that the pregnancy was a success. We were blessed with a beautiful baby boy and Little Mister H is now three months old.

During the pregnancy with our son, there were many times when I saw a rainbow shining in the sky.

The day after Little Mister was born a terrible storm thundered over Tunbridge Wells. Once the storm passed a double rainbow shone brightly over the town. Shining especially for my two beautiful children.

A photogragh of a three year old little girl playing with her little baby brother_they are both smiling and looking adoringly at each other _ My rainbow baby _ Mrs H's favourite things

A photograph of a brunette lady wearing glasses and cuddling her three year old daughter and her two month old son_My rainbow baby_Mrs H's favourite things

Rainbows are now an important symbol in my life. And in a few months I will pluck up the courage to have a rainbow tattooed onto my left wrist.

It will be a gift to my two precious children. The tattoo will also act as a reminder of the four babies that we never got to meet and who still have a place in my heart.

A photograph of a profile of a beautiful little girl. In the background are blue skies and lush green trees_My rainbow baby_Mrs H's favourite things

My rainbow baby_5_Mrs H's favourite thingsA gorgeous baby boy asleep on a brightly coloured rainbow blanket - he is wearing a Jojo Maman Bebe sleepsuit and matching hat - they are white and covered in tiny embroidered rainbows - My rainbow baby - Mrs H's favourite things

Introducing My Rainbow Baby, the blog series 

When I started writing about our recurrent miscarriages it was mainly for myself. I needed an output for all the emotions bubbling up inside of me. And my blog became a form of therapy.

Since sharing these posts I have been contacted many times by men and women who have experienced the heartbreak of miscarriage and baby loss. Some of them are now pregnant again and our filled with anxiety about losing another baby.

My aim for this blog has always been to be open and honest about my life. To share the good and the bad. By writing about my miscarriages and our precious rainbow babies my wish is to fill others with hope.

A photograph of a little baby's legs and feet - they are wearing beautiful rainbow leggings and the photograph is overlaid with the quotation "Be the rainbow in someone else's cloud" by Maya Angelou. The photograph also includes the MAMA Academy logo and the image is credited to MAMA Academy _ My rainbow baby _ Mrs H's favourite things

Photo courtesy of MAMA Academy.

I am not the only blogger who has experienced baby loss and gone on to have more children. There are many of us. And there are many stories to share. Beautiful and poignant tales of precious rainbow babies.

That is why I have created the blogging series My rainbow baby.

I am inviting my fellow bloggers to tell these stories. To talk about these precious children in their own words. And I will collate them on my blog so that there is a shared space where these stories of hope are held.

The first post is from Rachel who blogs at Mummy in Training. I am honoured that Rachel will be joining me to talk about her precious twin girls.

This post will go live on Wednesday 2nd November. and will be followed by future posts on the first Wednesday of every month. Please pop back to the blog to have a read and give this series your support.

If you would like to contribute to My rainbow baby then please leave a message in the comments or email me on I would love to hear from you.





If you have experienced baby loss or are pregnant after a loss then you do not need to feel alone. There are people that you can reach out to. The following charities are a fantastic source of comfort, support and can provide you with resources to help you through this difficult time.


Tommy’s funds research into stillbirths, premature births and miscarriages. They also offer advice to parents-to-be. The website’s pregnancy information pages have been written by midwives and are full of practical advice. Tommy’s has a Facebook page run by midwives. Or if you would prefer to speak to a human being then you can call their midwife run PregnancyLine on 0800 0147 800.

The Miscarriage Association

The Miscarriage Association is devoted to supporting those who have experienced miscarriage. The website is a fantastic resource. They have produced a very helpful leaflet called Thinking about another pregnancy. This has lots of hints and tips on how to look after yourself and reduce your risk of having another miscarriage. They also have a helpline on 01924 200 799, which is open Monday to Friday, 9am to 4pm.

MAMA Academy

MAMA Academy is a charity which supports mums and midwives to help babies arrive safely. The Royal College of Midwives have approved all the content of their website. MAMA Academy also produce Wellbeing Wallets which are full of easy to understand information that will guide and help you in your pregnancy.


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    Alice | Letters to my Daughter
    January 17, 2018 at 10:14 pm

    What a beautiful post, and a great idea for a series. I can only imagine how it must feel to long for a baby after miscarriage. You’re doing a great job here sharing your experiences to give other families hope <3

    And congratulations because someone loved this post so much, they added it to the #BlogCrush linky! Feel free to collect your "I've been featured" blog badge

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    January 12, 2018 at 1:27 pm

    This is such a beautiful read and I well and truly know the meaning of a Rainbow as my now 11 month old is my Rainbow baby. Is your guest series still open?

    -Soffy @

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    The Muddled Mum
    September 25, 2017 at 2:26 pm

    Gosh this has made me well up. I started a blog because dealing with the complex emotions of miscarriage is tough and I needed an outlet. Reading your story gives me hope that I may one day get my rainbow baby

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      Mrs H
      September 25, 2017 at 7:20 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I’m so sorry that this made you well up. The emotions of miscarriage are so complex. And even now I have my two gorgeous rainbow babies, I still struggle with all the feelings. I am sorry that you’ve had to go through this. And I really hope that you’ll find your rainbow soon. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Emma Thatcher
    July 5, 2017 at 5:22 pm

    A moving post tinged with both sadness and happiness. My twins are rainbow babies and my son is a rainbow baby too. I’d be happy to contribute if you are still looking for bloggers. X

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    May 11, 2017 at 3:17 pm

    I experienced a baby loss at my third pregnancy. the baby was only 5-6 weeks. I had bleeding after I carelessly let myself being too tired.

    Six months after that, I got pregnant and the baby is almost 37 weeks now. I hope this baby will be born healthy.

    I was 39 when I loss that baby. Now I’m 40.

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    May 5, 2017 at 6:41 pm

    Beautiful idea. They did shine for you. I hope they shine for me ❤️ November is going to be a tricky time for me. I hope that I can read the showcase with a tickle in my tummy.

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    May 1, 2017 at 2:39 am

    My condolences for your loss but both your rainbow babies are beautiful…

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    April 30, 2017 at 2:48 am

    Such a beautifully moving read! I have 2 rainbow babies and I would love to share my story!

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    February 19, 2017 at 6:58 pm

    Hi Lucy, currently nearly 29 weeks pregnant with, what we hope is, our 1st rainbow baby after 3 miscarriages in quick succession. I too have been using blogging as an outlet, and hope I can bring some information and support to other families, particularly where I live, to help them through these difficult, utterly life changing, times. We don’t really get rainbows in Thailand, I miss them, and I love how symbolic they are too you. I would love to help contribute to your blog if that is still possible, let me know. Huge hugs to you and your family!

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    Matthew Blyrhe
    February 19, 2017 at 2:13 am

    Beautiful. My friends have a Rainbow Baby, I was asked to speak at their naming ceremony. This is my poem
    Hope you like it

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    Jordanne | Thelifeofaglasgowgirl
    February 9, 2017 at 4:12 pm

    What a bwautiful story! Rainbow babies are little miracles for sure. Its hard going through the pain of a miscarriage, still birth, infant loss and any of the others. This is such an amazing post highlighting those littls cuties who follow such pain.

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    January 3, 2017 at 12:13 am

    What a wonderful series you’ve created. So many people with so many losses and you’re spreading much hope. I had a miscarriage at 3 months and was devastated. I can’t imagine how I’d cope with 6. I’m now blessed with two gorgeous rainbow babies. Would be happy to contribute to your series if you like. Best wishes, Ruth

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    November 24, 2016 at 3:44 pm

    I would love to contribute. My twin sons died after being born very prematurely due to my waters breaking early. Just let me know what I need to do 🙂

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    November 10, 2016 at 10:13 am

    This is such a tragic and beautiful post lovely. I can’t imagine what it must feel like to miscarry, let alone recurrent miscarriages. It must take such bravery to continue on after loss and to have hope left that things will work out. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

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    November 8, 2016 at 8:54 pm

    Wow, what a touching post, the rainbow does completely seem like fate. I’m so glad everything worked out and you now have your beautiful boy too!

    Emily – Babies and Beauty #marvmondays

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    November 2, 2016 at 1:31 pm

    How amazing that those rainbows appeared for you, it must have been comforting when you were going through such a scary time! I have had 3 early miscarriages in the past 6 months as well as struggling with infertility for a couple of years and I hope I get to hold my little rainbow too one day. This post certainly gives me some hope xx

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    Katie Roberts-Mason
    November 1, 2016 at 7:36 am

    Oh Lucy, I’m so sorry you had to go through this so many times, but what a special little boy you have xx

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    October 27, 2016 at 6:56 pm

    As I read this I cried as I suffered a miscarriage last month soon after my 40th birthday. Being my 4th miscarriage in a year I am making peace that we will be a family of three. I know the heartache and I am truly sorry you’ve suffered too. I’m thrilled you have your second rainbow baby! Such a beautiful blessing. -All my love xxx

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      Mrs H
      November 3, 2016 at 2:08 pm

      Oh Bella lovely. I just wish that I could give you a massive hug. I can’t even imagine how unbearable four miscarriages in a year must be. Thank you so much for your lovely sentiments. I really want that this blog series gives those that have suffered the horrid heartbreak of baby loss some hope. Because over a year ago I was pretty sure that I would never have another baby and now I have Little Mister H. Nothing in the future is certain. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    October 23, 2016 at 7:00 am

    This is so beautiful. I am so happy everything worked out! The rainbows are clearly your sign. I was the same- 4 years ago I had never heard the term rainbow baby so it’s only been recently that I’ve discovered I have one! I would love to write something for this if you will let me. I will email now xxx

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    Katy (What Katy Said)
    October 22, 2016 at 10:14 pm

    This made me cry, in sadness and in happiness. It is like those rainbows were your babies shining down for you. Just amazing. xxx

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      Mrs H
      October 22, 2016 at 10:47 pm

      Oh thank you so much gorgeous. I am sure that I have seen more rainbows since I fell pregnant with Little Mister H then the rest of my life. And it always felt like a sign. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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    Helen | Wonderfully Average
    October 22, 2016 at 7:25 pm

    Such a beautiful post Lucy. I remember how happy I was to read you would finally be getting your second little rainbow (who happened to be due around the same time as my little boy). I’ve been incredibly lucky not to have experienced baby loss myself but know lots of friends who have. It’s a lovely idea for a series and I’ll be sure to keep an eye out for future posts xx

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